After recovery comes reflection. Each week, we open the floor for any man in a tough spot to step into the spotlight, what we call the ring. He can choose what he needs:

• to be heard and witnessed

• to receive reflections or feedback

• or to get nothing but high fives and encouragement

We don’t overwhelm each other with advice. Just like a corner guy offers only a couple of clear insights between rounds, we share brief, intentional reflections.

When life punches hard, and it will, simple, grounded guidance lands better than a dozen shouted instructions. We listen deeply and speak only when asked.

And if no one needs the ring that night, I’ll pick someone. Just kidding. (Maybe.) Those nights are for learning from the masters, the men who have gone before us. We might read a short passage from a book, pull a quote that sparks reflection, or open the floor to a question someone has been carrying.

We speak in I-statements as we digest and reflect:

"How that hits me is…"

"What that brings up for me is…"

"This makes me think about…"

We stay rooted in our own experiences, not preaching at anyone else. There will also be moments for sparring, the healthy kind.

This is where we get in the ring and spar with our beliefs, coping mechanisms, survival tactics, and self-concept to see if they still serve us. Sparring gives us a chance to test what we believe, explore what we’ve been carrying, and open the door to new perspectives without pressure or judgment.

During a sparring session, input is always by invitation. A man can ask: "Would you like a reflection?" "May I share how what you said landed for me?"

Everything here is by invitation, not intrusion. We remember that we are each here for our own development and evolution, not to be right, not to fix, not to set traps, and not to prove anything. This is a space for self-leadership, self-honesty, and community. Nothing more, nothing less.